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Kiya Taylor's avatar

Thank you for writing this! I’ve co-slept for 20 months now and while I’m so grateful for the accounts I found that got me to here — I’m finding it eerily lonely to figure out “where to from here” — because honestly, I’m in no rush to put her into her own bed! Other than the fact she still nurses — I just really love knowing she’s right there!

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Kate Heming Panchal's avatar

Love, love, love! 💫🌷🙏

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Clare's avatar

Love this article!!! My youngest in 9 and she still likes to sneak into bed with us during the night. Do I love the nights where I don’t get hit or kicked by her? for sure. But do I love waking up to her in the middle of us telling her she loves me first thing In the morning ? You bet I do and I know this won’t last for much longer and then there will be no more co-sleeping ever again! Each one of my girls have co-slept with us for a season and yet All of my children are resilient, independent and capable of being away from us overnight!! To be honest there will be a part of me that will miss this season once it ends forever!

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Beck Delahoy's avatar

The not-knowing when the last time will be is such a bittersweet thing to anticipate. It's how I feel knowing that there will be a last time picking up my kids. My oldest is 8, and I pick him up every few days to make sure I still can 😆

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Kate Paine: Creativity Helm's avatar

My daughter is twenty now (!!) but we coslept and it was an incredible experience and simply part of how we approached parenting. But twenty years ago it was even more of a ‘bad thing’ than now. Same with extended breastfeeding and carrying your child. Honestly, we did everything ‘wrong’ according to all the ‘experts’ out there!

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Beck Delahoy's avatar

That feeling of doing it 'wrong' even though you know you're doing it right is why I'm working on a book about early parenting! The research is all there supporting those things you did, but the real experts who know about that stuff aren't the ones talking to new parents

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Kate Paine: Creativity Helm's avatar

A book that helped me stand my ground at the time was 'Three in a bed'. But at the time I was the only one I knew doing these things, and I didn't talk about it much at all because I knew I'd be met with disbelief or derision. And the health professionals were no better.

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Beck Delahoy's avatar

I so admire you for your bravery in doing things differently. That must have felt so tough at the time, even though you knew you were doing the right thing for your child

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Emma-Kate Wilson's avatar

So many bits I love about this article .. But definitely this "And you don’t have to wash the kids’ sheets as often, because they’re only used for half of the night." 😂

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Beck Delahoy's avatar

Between that and homeschooling because we get to eat peanut butter sandwiches, I've got a real vibe going 😂

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Rachel Combs's avatar

My kids LOVE to sleep with my. 6 year old does it every night, 11 does it any night she’s invited. I have slept well in 12 years, so maybe that’s what’s wrong with it? I’m ok with it though-it won’t last forever and I’ll be sad when they no longer want to.

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