One of the challenges I find is the balance of building the connection and getting things done.
I have to remind myself, outside of the moment, that that is the time to connect. I can't magically make my daughter feel safe as she's gripping my hand tighter and tighter as we walk towards the kindergarten line. It has to be at the pick up the day before. The evening play. The morning play. The walk to school.
That's so true! We often notice that they're low on connection when we are short on my time and need them to be fine.
I think of it a bit like the fuel gauge in a car. If we're only filling up when the light is flashing, we're likely to run into problems (like being too far away from a petrol station, or running late because you hadn't factored in time to fill up). But if we're keeping our eye on the gauge, we can top up when it's more convenient for us.
One of the challenges I find is the balance of building the connection and getting things done.
I have to remind myself, outside of the moment, that that is the time to connect. I can't magically make my daughter feel safe as she's gripping my hand tighter and tighter as we walk towards the kindergarten line. It has to be at the pick up the day before. The evening play. The morning play. The walk to school.
That's so true! We often notice that they're low on connection when we are short on my time and need them to be fine.
I think of it a bit like the fuel gauge in a car. If we're only filling up when the light is flashing, we're likely to run into problems (like being too far away from a petrol station, or running late because you hadn't factored in time to fill up). But if we're keeping our eye on the gauge, we can top up when it's more convenient for us.